Midlife: Arriving at our own door

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

Love after Love, by Derek Walcott


This is one of my favorite poems. It reminds me of the importance of sitting quietly, breathing, and honoring yourself. As we approach midlife it is important to let go of our negative, habitual thoughts, and step into a place appreciating our beauty.


Midlife Transition

As I am sitting here, writing this post, I am aware of another snowy day in April in Burlington, VT. Spring is around the corner, teasing us with buds starting to bloom, and the ability to see grass again. I find this time of year interesting, particularly after the long winter. I trust that spring will occur, and yet, I notice my impatience of wanting it to happen now. [Read more…]

Strategies for Finding Joy at Midlife

As you begin your journey to awaken to your wisdom there are some key elements that will help you find more aliveness and joy in midlife

One way of discovering what is really important to you in this new stage of life is to notice what makes your heart sing.

Noticing what makes your heart sing can be a playful and uplifting step in creating your future. Pay attention and see what you learn. Simply becoming aware of what brings you joy each day is a great practice for connecting with yourself and your dreams. [Read more…]


Do you ever feel like your life is wrapped in a cocoon? It’s a cozy familiar comfort zone, yet it limits your ability to step out into a bigger context.

Emerging Butterfly

Your discomfort with change, stuckness, resentment, sadness, fear of rejection, and anger — all keep you stuck in a cocoon. The more these feelings surround you, the stronger they become and the smaller you become. You yearn to step out into the world but it feels too scary. It is easier to live in a protected place than to take the risk of opening your heart and discovering ways to let go of your habitual thinking. [Read more…]